CASE DESCRIPTION
Leah (not her real name) is a first class high school student who had just climbed Favorites Salatiga class II. He came from a farmer who is quite the social economy in the hinterland village + 17 km outside the town of Salatiga, as the first child his parents initially objected to their children continue to finish junior high school in Salatiga; parents had hoped for her son does not need hard-have continued school to the city, but on persuasion when taking her child's homeroom STTB to give up their children attend school weight. Consideration of the guardian class because Leah fairly intelligent amongst other friends, so naturally if it could be accepted in high school favorite. Since received in high school on the one hand Lia's favorite as a child of the village proud after all be accepted, but on the other hand started to feel inferior to her friends, mostly from rich families with a pattern of association which is so different from the background Lia. He considers friends from wealthy families such as the selfish, less friendly, picky friends who are both from wealthy families alone, and arrogant. The longer the feeling of rejection, terisolik, and loneliness the more gripping and began to arise attitude and assumption that schooling is not for him not krasan, but ashamed of going out with parents and his compatriot; continue to survive, there is no hard / have a friend who cares. My basic rural children, poor children (compared to his friends in the city) hujatnya to yourself. Finally truly become a child minder, shy and hesitant and afraid to get along well as they should. The longer the maturity the more its value so that the burden of thought and feeling more and more weight, as to doubt whether this can be the next grade or not
UNDERSTANDING LIA IN THE PERSPECTIVE OF RATIONAL emotive
In the view of rational emotive, human beings have an inherent ability to act rationally or irrationally, humans are born with strong tendencies incredible desire and urgent in order that all things happen for the best for her life and at all blame themselves, others, and the world if does not immediately get what he wants. Consequently childish thinking (as a matter of manunusiawi) throughout his life, eventually only the enormous difficulty able to achieve and maintain a realistic behavior and adult; besides humans also have a tendency to overestimate the importance of acceptance of others which would cause his emotions not reasonably often blame themselves in ways that pembawaannya and self-destructive ways obtained. Think and feel is very close and with each other: the mind can be a feeling and vice versa; What is thinking and what he is feeling or occurrence of something embodied in the action / behavior rational or irrational. How is the action / behavior that is very easily influenced by others and the drive-doronan strong to defend themselves and satisfy themselves even irrational.
The characteristics of an irrational person can not be verified, play a role dimui God what should happen, control the world, and if unable to do so is considered stupid and useless; foster feelings of discomfort (like anxiety) that there was no need, not too bad / embarrassing but allowed to continue, and prevents someone kembai to the initial incident and change it. In fact, eventually leading to feelings of helplessness on self concerned. The forms of mind / feelings are irrational for example: everyone in the environment I have to like me, if anyone is not happy with me it means a disaster for me. That means my fault, because I'm not precious, not like people / other friends. I suffer because they deserve it.
In connection with the case, Lia actually born with the potential to excel, he became problematic because of its behavior is controlled by the thoughts / feelings of irrational, self-esteem he has placed on the concept / belief is wrong is if the rich, all friends pay attention / support, care, etc. and it all does not exist / be obtained from the high school, until in the end blames herself with blasphemy and suffering and isolate himself. He has managed to build the concept itself is not realistic based on the assumption that one of (and from) friends environment. He became self-conscious, shy, timid and hesitant ultimately the success / achievements that actually will not need to happen.
PURPOSE AND COUNSELING TECHNIQUES
If Leah is not logical thinking / realistic (about the concept of himself and his view of his friends) were being fought then he will change it. Thus the purpose of counseling is to combat the irrational thinking that melatar Lia-background fear / kecematannya the concept itself is wrong with his attitude toward other friends. In a more nuanced authoritative counselor counseling: call Leah, invite discussion and to encourage direct confrontation moved from irrational thinking into rational / logical and realistic through persuasive, suggestive, giving appropriate advice, therapy by applying the principles learned to PR and bibliographic therapy .
Counselling Cognitive: to show that Lee must dismantle irrational mindset about the concept of self-esteem, attitude toward fellow friend wrong if you want more happiness and success. Counselors teach more stylish: to provide advice, direct confrontation with the map-irasoonal rational thought, suggestions and asertive simulation training with self-apply the correct self-concept and attitude / dependence on others is correct / rational proceed as a PR exercise, observing and evaluating yourself. Example: from a person not worthy of the wealth or the number and status of friends who support, but the love of God and its realization. God loves me, because I am worth dihadiratNya. Against myself someday I'm happy, satisfied and proud, but sometimes indifferent, indifferent, even sometimes I hate, cursing myself, so it is natural and realistic that some 40 people, a friend of one class for example is + 40% good, 50% neutral, only 10% are membeci me. It is impossible to prosecute all / every person every time good to me, and so on. These ideas are taught, and trained with a scientific approach.
Counselling emotive-evolatif to change the system value by using the technique Leah awareness between right and wrong such as the example, play a role, and load shedding for Lia releasing thoughts and feelings are not rational and replace it with a rational as the continuation of cognitive techniques above. Counselling behavioritas used to change negative behavior to change the roots of Lia's belief that irrational / illogical reinforcemen contract, social modeling, and relaxation / meditation.
CLOSING
This theory is in helping direct approach using the advice that is marked by attacking the problem with an intellectual and convincing (koselor). The technique is clear, rigorous, more and see / realize the thoughts and words are constantly addressed to myself, which brought destruction to themselves. The way the counselor is to approach the firm, ask attention to the thoughts that cause the disorder and how the mind and the sentence was in operation until the adverse consequences. The counselor then helps him to think again, challenging, argumentative, say the sentences are harming it, and thereby he brought a client into awareness and new insight. But the insight and awareness is not enough. He must be trained to think and say to yourself things that are more positive and realistic. Therapists teach clients to think right and act effectively. The technique used is eklektif with consideration:
1. Economical in terms of time for both counselor and counselee
2. Technical-technical effectiveness used is suitable for a wide range of counselee
3. Freshness of its outcome,
4. The depth and soil can be worn long and counselee to counsel her own defeat.
In conclusion, re-structuring philosophically wrong to alter personality functioning involves the following steps: (1) recognize fully that we are largely responsible for the creation of our own problems, (2) accept the notion that we have the ability to alter the disturbances in mean, (3) realize that the problems and our emotions come from irrational beliefs, (4) clearly perceive these beliefs, (5) accept the fact that, if we expect to change, we better have to deal with ways of behavior and emotion to act counter to our beliefs and feelings-feelings that one function and the actions that follow, and (6) practice RET methods to eliminate or alter the consequences of which are impaired in the remaining time our lives.
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