2.29.2012

9 Mistakes that Can Stop Your Self Development

When you try to grow, it is easy to fall more than once and make yourself hurt the way to success, happiness, and all the things you want to achieve. Surely there are some holes in that you must take and be careful of course.

Below are nine common mistakes made when you're developing. I have made those mistakes. Even more than once.

Sharing this with me, I hope I hope you do not fall into the same hole as I did.

Now let us discuss the error 9:

1. Think That You Know It All
This is a big problem and can stop the development of your self for a long time. Thoughts like: "I understand how things work in this world. I do not need a salesman is to improve the quality of my life. They do not have anything new that they can offer. Only desperate people who need the book. It's just a matter of self-awareness course. "

It is this kind of thinking and attitude that will make you difficult to develop. When you read a self development books from authors such as Anthony Robbins, Brian Tracy or Stephen Covey; you will realize very quickly that the best advice they provide is not entirely related to self-awareness. In fact, the advice they give is often contrary to the truth of which we obtain from palajaran lessons in schools, media and other people around us.

2. Troubled by The Things That Are Trends
Mindset as the first point above is not entirely wrong. There are many salesmen that offer many things to you out there. And because the author or the most successful motivational speakers to understand how to communicate, there are many high-pressure sales techniques that you can earn by reading marketing books. Techniques such as small gifts and free offers for consumers, or by saying that there are only 500 pieces of similar products and this offer is only valid one week.

However, although some marketing techniques seem very optimistic or aggressive tended, that does not mean the product being offered does not have value. Differentiate between sales techniques with ditawarakan products.

In my opinion, start with the brands or products that have good reviews. Do a little research via google and search for information about these products.

3. Not Taking Action
Think that by reading books or blogs will change your life automatically is wrong thinking. Knowledge without action will not produce anything. And only you are able to change yourself. Other people can give you advice, support, and motivation. But in the end, you have to take action.

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4. Give up
When you experience failure first, second or third, you usually think "It means nothing. This is me and I can not change. I had to familiarize myself thinking that I really like it. "
Do not give up. One or five or 20 failures would be meaningless in the long run. You have to fail so that you master something and grow.

5. Worried about or listen to the words of others
You may be afraid that people will react negatively to the changes you are doing, and they do tend to do so. Perhaps they do so because they fear you'll stay away from them and will miss you forever. Or maybe they do not want you to change as it will make them feel at rest. They may also give you a negative opinion on the development yourself, that everything you do is in vain, wasting time and real life is very different than that written in the book.

If you are at a stalemate, it is probably because you feel you need approval from others and you should begin to break away from the influence of these people. If not, you will forever live in the shadow of others and you will never grow.

6. Experimenting With How Your Own
Experimenting with the material development of your self; not commit to learn or practice and develop it consistently as part of your daily life. Maybe you feel the changes you are trying to do too difficult, or not feasible to do, so you are not committed to do so.

Is it hard to make these changes? Sometimes yes. However I feel that growth has more positive than negative values, and I think that from the standpoint of ordinary people - people who have not followed any self-development program - impressed that the people who are trying to make themselves look more developmental work hard, spend more money and time than if you look from the side of those who try to make changes. Hard work is not something that is difficult if you feel you are growing and loving what you are doing.

Is the change worth it? Obviously these changes better than other alternatives; just running to and fro every day and is filled with anger, stress and lack of self-esteem.
The key to all things in life is consistency and patience. Commit to your own development.

7. Expectations have a Not Cause
This may occur because of a lack of information. Sometimes the amount of information as well as the quality of the information you have. When you first start, you may feel that just by reading a book will solve all your problems. Not having a clear picture of what you can get will make you disappointed and like a loser without good reason, until you finally give up.

One method I use to remove myself from this condition is to develop the habit of "taking" motivational material at any time, either in the form of books, blogs or audio CD. I build my own small library and fill it with material development.

Re listening to a CD owned by Andrie Wongso example not only makes me more motivated, but also provides me with a solution to my problem. These habits - combined with the action - will make the things you want, what method is best for you and all the opportunities and constraints in the development of your self.

8. Failure To Or Not Wanting To Understand Yourself
To change yourself; you have to understand the processes going on inside you. How your emotions to work, your ego works, how your past experiences and you can influence your habits. And what you can do about these things. How you can help yourself. Even if you try to change parts of yourself you really want to change.

So in my opinion, do not just stick to one teacher and one mind. Read books or listen to other materials that come from famous authors to broaden your horizons and give you some solutions to your problems.

Try to be more introspective; aware of the process that happens within you when you become angry, depressed, jealous or envious. Try to act differently than you normally do.

Rather than take action as you normally do, practice what you have learned to deal with your habits. If you fail - just like most people, paculah keep yourself - take time to analyze why you feel or do something negative.

If you do not have control over your actions, would be very difficult to help yourself and others. You will find a solution that is ineffective, become discouraged, and eventually cease to grow.

9. Not Taking Responsibility for Yourself
It is very important. Do not blame others. You who can make such changes.

That's the 9 things that can hinder the development of yourself and I am sure there are many other things ha. But I would add the other items on another occasion.

If you have any other suggestions, please feel free to add in the comments.

2.28.2012

9 Tips To Make Your Sleep Quality (Beauty)

Obtaining adequate sleep is important because if you always get less sleep, will greatly affect your health. Research shows that sleep deprivation can cause problems on your weight, moodiness (not excited), heart problems and even make your body susceptible to disease. Most people know that sleep is important, but even so they are increasingly getting reduced hours sleep due to work piling up, the habit of sleeping late, playing games, etc..

As a student I had a really bad sleep patterns: talked late into the organization with friends, play games and hang out. 2 am is the fastest hour I was asleep at that time. Wake up at noon with limp body condition and not excited. Really like the vampire, reluctant to get out the house during the day.

My bad habits eventually have an impact that was felt up to now: I am having problems with heartburn. Usually people who have poor sleep patterns, it has a poor diet as well, and that's what I experienced.

Well it Intermezzo little about my bad habits first. For those readers who have a lifestyle like my first, I recommend that you immediately change it. Maybe now you have not felt since you were young, but with age, usually you will begin to experience symptoms due to sleep patterns and poor diet.
Okay back to our main topic this time, the 10 tips that will help you get quality sleep:

1. Exercising
Health experts, whoever and wherever, would encourage us to exercise regularly. Maybe you were already tired of listening to this advice many times. No harm in reminding me once again this time.
There are so many benefits of exercise, one of which help you to be fast asleep at night and you get a quality sleep (deep sleep).

2. Schedule your bedtime
Your sleep schedule is also a regular basis is important in getting quality sleep. Avoid these days you go to bed at 9 pm, the next day at 12 am the next day and again at 10 pm. Regularity will help the metabolism in your body running well.

3. Get to know your habits
Connecting point 2 above, so you know the hours you sleep each night, make sure you prepare everything you normally do before going to sleep well so that you do not miss hours of sleep. For example, you plan to sleep every night at 11 and you have the habit of reading about half an hour before bedtime. This means that the maximum at 10.30 you should have started reading at 11 pm so that you are asleep.

4. Do not eat heavy meals before bedtime
Make sure you do not eat heavy or too much before bedtime. Light dinner is highly recommended. Nowadays I often hear people go on a diet at night. Many of my colleagues started to do this: they ate a little rice or no rice at all, only the side dishes and vegetables only. This is very good. A very full stomach can make you difficult to sleep. If you still feel hungry, it is suggested snacking on fruits alone than 'junk food'.

I've heard the advice of people who are very successful and wise, was headed at the age of 6 but still energetic as the age of 40 years: "getting enough sleep, drink plenty and eat not too full."
Yes, the advice is very simple but can make people live longer.

5. Turn off your computer
If you are a computer enthusiast whether for browsing or gaming, you are advised to make the gap between your computer with the time to stop playing before you got into your bed, at least ½ hour. Usually we will find it difficult to sleep if you lie down directly after using the computer. Relax your brain out for a while, because your brain is still 'hot' time.

It is sometimes difficult to do this, as I did, because we're cool-asiknya and definitely feel too bad if we wasted half an hour is not in front of the computer.
But I also feel if my brain had been cold, I became much faster to fall asleep.

6. Do not talk on the phone before bed
This is similar to the point no 5. When you chat with your friends on the phone, your brain when it is in 'standby mode'. It takes time to turn it into a "quiet mode". Spend some time about a half hour to cool down your brain before you go to bed. The brain is quiet of course makes us more quickly to sleep.

7. Make sure your bedroom lights go out
Highly recommended if you sleep in a dark room condition. Almost all of the experts suggest to turn off the lights when we rest because it will affect the quality of our sleep. I once read an article saying that the effects of light will stimulate certain hormones and ultimately affects the metabolism in our body.
Usually if the room where we rest in the dark, we will sleep soundly and rarely maintained.

8. Mattress
Whether your mattress is too old for you using? Whether in the middle is more flat than the sides? If so, I suggest you to replace them with new ones, which will support your body better so that you feel much more comfortable during sleep.
This usually happens on a mattress that contains cotton. Model 'spring bed' are rare.

9. Your sleep environment
If you often wake up just to turn off air conditioning or fans from the cold, it is obviously greatly affect the quality of your sleep. Set the timer on the AC / fan or if there is no timer, make sure you wrap yourself before bed so you do not wake up at midnight to turn off air conditioning or fan.

So dear readers, starting today you can do the tips above so that you sleep better quality, so the next day you can start your day with a fresh and cheerful.

2.27.2012

10 Secrets of Gaining Confidence In Seconds Count

Many ways you can do to increase your confidence in the long run, but sometimes we also need measures increases confidence in a short time. You can not seem to run into an important meeting with a book of guidance on self-confidence, or call your mentor at the last minute.

So I tried to share the following with you some tips that can increase your confidence quickly in a matter of seconds:

1. Smile
Smiling is a second tips if you feel nervous and insecure. You do not just smile when you feel happy and confident, otherwise you can smile to make yourself feel better. Smiling is closely linked to positive feelings that you might almost feel bad when you smile.

Smile more than just an expression on your face. Smiling releases endorphin hormones that make you feel better, improve blood circulation in your face, makes you feel good about yourself and of course can increase your confidence. You also will appear more confident in front of others when you smile.

2. Talk face to your opponent's eyes
As with a smile, look at the eyes of everyone in the room. Give your smile and you can bet they will return your smile, and smile that given by others to increase your confidence quickly. As with a smile, eye contact shows that you are confident. Staring at your shoes or your desk encourages a feeling of doubt and shame. These tips are very useful for the work situation; make eye contact with the person who interviewed you, or people who attend your presentation.

"Eye contact helps you to eliminate fear when you're speaking in public and getting you closer to your listener. Stress is a feeling that comes from something that is foreign and can not be controlled. Eye contact gives the speaker a picture of reality which is none other than the speaker itself. Eye contact also helps you attract the other person. "(Confident Eye Contact, Unlimited Confidence)

3. Change Your Inner Voice
Most of us have a voice in saying that we are stupid, are not capable enough, too fat, skinny, noisy, quiet, etc.. The ability to change the voice inside of you is the key to gain confidence from within. Create a voice within you to be the most familiar friends supporting you and know your talent, and you want to achieve the best.

4. Forget The Defined Standard Others
Regardless of the situation in which you are experiencing a crisis of confidence, you can help yourself by adhering to the standards you have. Other people have different values with you, and no matter how hard you try, you can never please everyone all the time. Do not worry if people call you fat, skinny, lazy, boring, cheap, stupid, etc. .. Stick to the standards you have, not on the standards of others. Remember the values and standards are generally owned by different people; you do not have to accept the values and standards just because the people around you to accept it.

5. Maybe forth Serapih
Although you only have a little time, go to the bathroom to make sure you look neat. Comb your hair, wash your face, fix your makeup, straighten your collar, make sure no food residue on your teeth. All these things can make the difference between confidence in your appearance and your fear of your appearance.

"Improve your physical appearance; already a fact that a person's appearance plays an important role in building confidence. Although we know what we have within us that is important, your physical appearance to determine the impression the person you are. "(Building Blocks to Self-Confidence, Complete Wellbeing)

6. Pray or meditate for a moment
If you believe in the Almighty, said a prayer can improve your confidence (you can also do meditation than prayer). This step helps you to step back a moment from a fast-paced situations and seek help from the Almighty. Here is an example of prayer, but you can write the same thing according to your religion or belief:

"Dear God, thank You for loving me and accept me .. help me to do the same thing .. and help me to grow up to be in accordance with your will so that my confidence will grow; all for the glory of thy name and not my name. Thank you for listening and answering my prayer. Amen. "(Daily Encounter, Strengthen Your Self-Confidence, International Acts)

7. Reka Birthday
If something unexpected happens you, this is pretty easy to shake your confidence. You might spill your drink, late for an important meeting because of traffic jams, or someone that you want to talk to cool responding. Try to "recreate the" situation and place them on a more positive situation. Often an event to be negative because of our own perceptions.

8. Determine Your Next Step
If you are unsure what to do, find a simple step that can help you to move forward. This may be done by making eye contact at a party, introduce yourself to strangers, break the ice in a meeting, or ask the person interviewing you to demonstrate your knowledge of the industry and their companies.

Begin to act even if you do not have a clear picture of what you should do. Move toward your goals. Correction yourself next time.

9. Speak Slowly
A simple tips for you to look or be more confident is to speak slowly. If you talk too fast, you'll feel bad because you realize you are talking too fast. Speak slowly gives you a chance to think about what you will say next. If you're talking or doing presentations, stopping just at the end of a phrase or sentence to help people digest what you say.

Speaking slowly indicates a person's self confidence. Someone who was not worth listening to will speak quickly, because he did not want to make other people waiting for things that are not worth listening to.

10. Join to Take Part
Have you ever sat all day in the classroom or in a meeting without saying a word? Do you ever go out with your friends in the evening where your friends chatted happily while you just sit and stare at your drink? Chances are you are not too confident at that point - and maybe you'll feel worse after that night. Whatever your situation, try to take part. Although you are not a lot you can say, your thoughts and your perspective is very valuable to the people around you.

By trying to talk at least once in each discussion group, you will become a better speaker, more confident to express your thoughts, and recognized as a leader by your peers.

2.26.2012

37 Reasons Why Life is very exciting

The points below I combine of some inspiration plus a little extra from me personally. May be useful ....

1. When you smile the world smile with you.

2. Based on the average age of man, we are given time about 65 years to do it right.

3. Success, simply, achieved by changing your habits and way of thinking.

4. Talent can not make you work hard, but hard work can make you talented.

5. Life is more than just making money.

6. Opportunity is not a rare thing for those who are always looking for.

7. With the dedication, expertise can be whatever you want to achieve.

8. Your happiness does not depend on factors outside of yourself.

9. All obstacles will only make you grow stronger and wiser.

10. A lot of grief can be eliminated by always seeing the positive sides to everything.

11. Treat others well, then you will be treated equally.

12. The more you give, the more you receive.

13. Laughter is a free way to health.

14. People will forgive you when you are really asking sincerely.

15. Love, and instead you will be loved.

16. Not everyone is materialistic and selfish.

18. Hard work will always open the road and other roads.

19. Cheerfulness can be achieved by having a hobby.

20. Making friends is easy as long as you have the initiative to find others more distant.

21. By not expect more, you will only get richer and happier.

22. Through the internet, any knowledge can be searched easily.

23. Any kind of pain inside you may feel, the beauty of nature is always to relieve the burden of your soul.

24. Responsibility is not as bad or as scary as it sounds.

25. There are many beautiful places to visit, a new diet to try and new people to meet.

26. Love yourself and you will find an abundance of love.

27. Having a family is one of the most beautiful thing you can feel.

28. Read a book or watching a positive film can make you feel wonderful day.

29. Your imagination can transcend far from reality.

30. When we give to the less fortunate, the smiles on their faces is far more valuable than what we give.

31. With the dedication, there is no word impossible.

32. Do not worry about mistakes or failures, because it will make you wiser.

33. The more often you fail, the more likely you are to succeed.

34. Unlike friendship, love does not require a trade-off.

35. Find a passionate desire is the best thing you can do for yourself.

36. There are many good people than bad people.

37. If you feel life is so exhilarating, so live your life as well as possible.

Have other things to add? I am very happy to hear your thoughts.

2.25.2012

Happiness Is A Decision

On this occasion, I will discuss the topic of happiness. I'll try to share the thoughts of happiness to my readers as well. Hopefully useful.

For me, happiness is a positive and exciting feeling, that every man could feel the deepest of his heart. Many people are trying to find happiness in the wrong places and it ended with his life far more suffering than before.

Why did this happen? This is because we look for it ... outside of ourselves. We expect something or someone gives it to our happiness.

A sage named Rumi was once said, "We're looking for diamond necklace from room to room that actually exist in our own neck." It was the same when we are trying to find happiness. We look for "everywhere", and we never know exactly where happiness comes.

I think you all agree that happiness is independent of the things that smell of materialism, such as: driving a luxury car or have a position / title of the prestigious (though these things can bring pleasure to your life).

Happiness was not dependent on others, as you have people who are important in your life (although it's love and presence of these people can add to the fun).

Happiness was not dependent on something that happened, for example: if you stay in place, will be good and if you left the place, it would be good.

Happiness is not to be found everywhere in the world outside.

The biggest obstacle to our happiness is a false idea of our own. For example: thinking about someone or something that makes you happy. Maybe you feel the joy of someone or something, but happiness is actually a false and temporary. When you are not with someone or something, the joy it would go well with him.

I will give a few illustrations to explain.
What was it about .... hmm ....,
Oh yes just this: you never felt a broken heart? I think most definitely been there. Usually what people do when they are broken-hearted (including me of course)? I then went to a boarding house / friend 's house and asked her to talk, play and go somewhere. I forgot this time of grief. I was so happy with my friends. But when I returned home and alone, feeling sad I return envelop.

There's nothing wrong if you were doing the same thing as I did. But I want to emphasize here is: Where can someone actually find happiness?

Stop searching out what can actually be found within you. Make the decision to be happy.

Okay, let me repeat once again:
Happiness depends on your own decision to be happy.

So happiness is a decision. Anytime, anywhere you can decide to be happy or not.

Okay, below is an acclamation. I quote from an article out a while ago. Aklamasinya good enough. You can repeat and read aloud:

I, {your name}, decide to be happy now, regardless of the weather, other people, the world or anything that happened to me.

I'm with confidence knowing that God has given me the right to be happy.

Therefore, I claim that happiness is mine and I belong to happiness.

2.24.2012

Negative effects Collecting Goods are Not Useful

This is one bad habit most people: collect items that actually are not needed anymore.

Have you ever walked into a house with many piles of stuff everywhere? Books, newspapers, cardboard, or plastic bag with contents that do not clear the room in the house. Or maybe you've been to one of your friends boarding with the same conditions, so for you it was hard to sit down too?
Do you feel then? I am sure you will feel discomfort.

Or you actually belong to a group of collectors items that are no longer needed? If so, I strongly encourage you to make some changes.
Why? Due to collect items that you no longer need will only make the home, your mind and your life a mess. Irregular house is a symbol of disorganized thinking. These items will bother you and you are more emotionally chaotic mind.

I once visited one of my friend's house, who happened to subscribe to the newspaper. In one corner of his house I saw a tall stack of newspapers has reached the ceiling. I asked him what to collect as much paper. He said he wanted mengklipping the articles that he likes.
About a year later I visited his home again, I saw a pile of paper grew into several lines. I asked what about the articles of his collection. He has not had time to answer.

Such phenomena are encountered. Maybe you feel affection dispose of an item, even though you know that the item is no longer working for you, in the name of who knows this stuff can be used again someday. Or maybe you've bought goods from a shop and so far you have never opened it. It may also be your drawers full of stuff is broken, and a wardrobe full of old clothes that never used again.

There is no compelling reason actually collect items that are no longer needed, such as: outdated, broken, no longer good, bad or can not be cleaned again.

If you look at the lives of successful people through biographies or articles about him, they are people who have the uncanny ability to cut items that are no longer needed. They were able to separate the important items of goods that are not important.

Reduce the regular stuff that has been unused. There will be a relief effect that comes from cutting these items. You have more room in your house and you get rid of feelings of tightness that comes from the piles of goods that meet all over the place. Do not need to own a house or furniture with minimalist style to have such feelings. Simply check out your drawers, your closets, in the cabinet, the corners of your house and under your bed.